How we can help & FAQ’s

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Ibiza Counselling offers Face to Face therapy for individuals, couples & young people, we also offer a FREE weekly support group.  Business counselling & mediation between colleagues. Counselling retreats and holidays as well as corporate / retreat workshops.


An introduction to what counselling is……

“The task of counselling is to give the client an opportunity to explore, discover and clarify ways of living more resourcefully and towards greater well being”

British Association for Counselling and Psychotherapy.

Counselling is a relationship between client and counsellor where the client feels there are general or specific issues in their life experience that they would like to seek clarity on. Counselling seeks to enable the client to explore areas of distress and enable them to become aware of the life choices available to them. These are often areas that they feel uncomfortable talking to friends and family about and only feel secure in the confidential environment of the counselling room. The counselling relationship is a professional one, where you will be seen for a specific amount of time on a weekly basis, with a contract agreed by you and the counsellor. The British Association for Counsellors and Psychotherapists has a code of ethics and as a member I have agreed to adhere to, their ethical framework.

There is often a certain amount of anxiety surrounding the first session, what will happen, will we get on, will she think I’m mad, what if I say the wrong thing. All of these thoughts are completely normal and very common and I suppose for me the most important thing to hold is that you are yourself and if you are feeling a certain way then it does not matter what has caused it or if anyone else might feel differently in a similar situation. You are feeling that way and that validates it 100%. Nothing is minor, silly or not important enough to justify talking about, if its on your mind and causing you anxiety then it is important enough to spend time on.

I suppose it’s also important to say that counsellors do not have a magic wand, it is not advice and things will not improve over night. It is a process that you need to trust, a process that will enable you to understand and be more aware of yourself, how things impact you and how you impact others. In time this awareness will help you to make choices and decisions that enhance your life and help you to understand its meaning a little better.

Sometimes it’s a case of reflecting on life as a whole and ensuring good mental wellbeing and sometimes there are particular issues that clients want to address, whatever it is that makes you want to consider counselling. One of the most important things to remember is that the counselling room is a totally confidential and non judgmental space for you to express thoughts, ideas and feelings that you may not want to share with those closest to you and have possibly never shared before… is a safe place.

Some of the issue I work with are: relationships (with partners, friends, work colleagues and family), anxiety, Drug and Alcohol, depression, abuse (physical and verbal), cultural issues, change, living away from home, sexuality, expectations, work related stress, HIV & Aids, Self Esteem, anger, Childhood, Bereavement, Fertility,, miscarriage, Finding meaning to life, self Image / Identity, stages of life, gender, intimacy, isolation, child abuse and personal growth.

Weather you are in Ibiza for a holiday, a summer season or living here permanently, this island can often be a life changing experience. Take a little time to reflect on what has brought you here and what it means to you to spend the time here that you are.


Frequently Asked Questions:

A: Counselling is a relationship developed between client and therapist which allows individuals or couples come together with a Counsellor to seek solutions to a specific or general problem, to learn new coping skills, to seek an answer about a life dilemma, to function more maturely or to clarify what is ailing them. It is a place to reflect and explore issues and ensure continued good mental health and well being.

A: Therapy can be as long or as short as you wish, I offer short term solution focused therapy which is usually 6-12 sessions and I also offer open ended long term work which is initially can be about a specific issue but often becomes a more in-depth learning of oneself.

A: Counselling is your time, yours to talk about and explore anything that you choose, this may differ from week to week but central to the therapy is the thought that we are working together enabling you to have a better understanding of why and how you impact and are impacted by those around you.

A: The answer to that question obviously various from person to person. However if you are feeling anxious, dejected, depressed, or maybe feel you are somehow unfulfilled, counselling may well be the answer you have been looking for.

A: For the relationship to develop and be of use to you it is important that you feel comfortable and relaxed in the knowledge that what ever is spoken in the counselling room remains in the counselling room, there are however times when this code of confidentiality maybe broken. The first is during supervision, it is good ethical practice for all counsellors to have regular supervision and be able to get feedback from their supervisor. Supervision is about improving our practice and how we work. No names are mentioned and the focus is on the therapist and how they are relating to the client. Not the client and their issues.

The second time when confidentiality maybe broken is if there is a risk of the client harming themselves or others, the counsellor would then have an ethical duty to inform the relevant person (usually GP). As the client you would always be informed if this were going to happen.

A: No your GP will not be informed, however at the initial assessment I would ask for your GP’s contact details incase of emergency.

A: No one need know you are having counselling, it is a private arrangement between you and your counsellor.

A: Yes. Kate Stillman has full professional indemnity insurance.

A: First, you need to contact Ibiza Counselling to arrange your appointment. During this initial meeting, you and Kate will discuss your present situation, needs and concerns about therapy. After which it should become clear whether entering therapy would be suitable for you and whether or not we would like to work together.

A: The decision to undergo counselling is an important step which needs to be taken seriously, it does involve serious commitment. The more you are able to reflect and process outside of the sessions then the more you will be able to get from the sessions themselves.

A: Counselling can be offered both over the phone and via Skype, Kate has many clients who she works with over globally via the phone/Skype/FaceTime.